Archive: Health and Wellness

Want Abundance? Choose ‘Fun’ Consciously

(courtesy Luke Jones via Flickr)

(courtesy Luke Jones via Flickr)

I have a friend who whenever he talks to me asks me what I have planned to do for fun. He’s a party person — loves getting together with friends, lots of drinking and laughing, that sort of thing. He’s out most weekends with his gang of friends. He’s what we might call a “fun” person.

And that’s fine for him, but it’s just not the way I have fun.

Fun is a subjective term —  it is so personalized that it’s difficult to describe. We each know what it is when we’re in the midst of it. Fun should be a part of lives. That said, like all things, we should be wary of too much fun. Our fun should help us get to the goals we’ve set for ourselves.

Do the things we do for fun bring us joy and peace and abundance?

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Setting Boundaries

(credit: Mindaugas Danys via Flickr)

(credit: Mindaugas Danys via Flickr)

Lately I’ve had some challenges with people who can’t or won’t set personal boundaries — emotional or otherwise. Loose emotional boundaries can result in childish hissy fits, and when a thirty-year-old has a hissy fit, it is not pretty.

Loose emotional boundaries zap energy, motivation, and trust. When there is a lack of boundaries, there is a lack of abundance.

One of the things my parents did when I was growing up was to let me know very clearly what my boundaries were. I knew what I could and couldn’t do. I knew what decisions I was responsible for and which ones belonged to someone else. Most importantly I knew how I could and should behave. There were consequences to inappropriate behavior in my home. I am so thankful for that.

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Make Your Bed Every Morning

(credit: Vania W. via Flickr)

(credit: Vania W. via Flickr)

I make my bed every morning. It takes me less than a minute, but it’s one of the most important things I do each day. I do this simple task as soon as I get up. I straighten the sheets, tuck in the corners, pull up the duvet, and then add the pillows. Voila, all is order and I’m ready to start my day.

Why do I think making the bed is so important? Good question.

Making the bed each morning teaches me to be consistent, set boundaries, and create order. Let me explain.

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Do Away With the Drama

(credit: Keith Allison via Flickr)

(credit: Keith Allison via Flickr)

Other than Jeopardy, a couple of shows on HGTV comprise the only commercial TV I watch because, to me, commercial TV is not only a huge waste of time and energy, but actually can make me sick — and being healthy is critically important to me.

BBC America used to have some good programming — but, alas, no more.

I remember when A&E and Bravo aired great TV. That was years ago. Now most of the offerings are drivel.

I still watch House Hunters International, but the other shows on HGTV are so absurdly scripted and formulaic that they’re unwatchable.

The contrived drama would be amusing — do these people never learn from their experiences — if it wasn’t so trite. I’ve only had cable TV for the one month I’ve lived in my new home, but it’s on its way out of here. It’s way too expensive and the offerings are just awful.

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Give Up Fear

(credit: dryhead via Flickr)

(credit: dryhead via Flickr)

I get emails from Oprah each day and the headline in today’s email was Dr Phil espousing that fear was the worse “four-letter F” word. I rarely pay attention to the articles — not because what they write doesn’t have value — but often it’s trite and obvious.

But then so is the notion that fear is bad.

Fear IS bad for you. But our culture is programmed to keep us fearful in every aspect of our lives. Fearful people rarely step outside the line.

When I was much younger and making my way in the world, it seems like life offered many more possibilities and was safer. (I write about this in “How I Became an Improbable Millionaire.”) While lots of “improbable” things happened to me along the way, there was so much more opportunity that I could tap into then exists as readily today.

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