Do Away With the Drama

(credit: Keith Allison via Flickr)

(credit: Keith Allison via Flickr)

Other than Jeopardy, a couple of shows on HGTV comprise the only commercial TV I watch because, to me, commercial TV is not only a huge waste of time and energy, but actually can make me sick — and being healthy is critically important to me.

BBC America used to have some good programming — but, alas, no more.

I remember when A&E and Bravo aired great TV. That was years ago. Now most of the offerings are drivel.

I still watch House Hunters International, but the other shows on HGTV are so absurdly scripted and formulaic that they’re unwatchable.

The contrived drama would be amusing — do these people never learn from their experiences — if it wasn’t so trite. I’ve only had cable TV for the one month I’ve lived in my new home, but it’s on its way out of here. It’s way too expensive and the offerings are just awful.

There is so much drama and sensationalism in media these days. The most inane topic is dramatized to the point of absurdity and even the most positive things are given a negative twist. Many of the commercials that interrupt the shows at a nauseating frequency peddle drugs. It would be laughable, if it wasn’t so dangerous.

And you’re asking… Other than getting this off your chest, Liz, why is this important?

There is a reason. We ape what we’re exposed to. We can’t help it, we do. Drama is an endemic part of our society, and because it distorts reality by emphasizing emotions over reason, it’s an inhibitor to decision-making and problem solving. Drama is dangerous because it teaches us to do spend our energy focused on the wrong thing.

I had a great mentor when I worked at TI. One of the many things she taught me was how to control my emotions, the drama, when making decisions or solving problems in the workplace.

What was her advice?

If I was in a highly emotional situation at work — and that happened all the time — she taught me how to take the drama out of the equation before I dealt with the problem. Put your emotions in your back pocket, she told me. Reevaluate the situation with a clearer vision, one without the fog of the drama.

By focusing on the problem, rather than how I was feeling at the time, I could better see a solution. Then once the problem was resolved, if I wanted I could revisit the emotions.

Wow! Did that work, or what?

Being able to divorce my emotions from a situation so I could focus on the problem, changed my life. Problems melted away as I attended to solving them. Rarely did I need to pull those nasty emotions back out of my pocket.

Once the problem was solved, there was no longer any need for the drama.

Even on HGTV shows, everyone is happy at the end.

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About Liz Stauffer

Liz Morningstar Stauffer’s improbable journey—from a divorced mother of two at the age of 34 to a millionaire some 15 years later—has inspired her to create the blog “The Improbable Millionaire," offering tips, advice, stories and support for people on a similar journey—even if they don’t know it yet!

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